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To the "Wimmenz be bitches who deprive us decent menz" crowd [May. 27th, 2014|07:47 am]
Okay. I don't know what you're all called. The guys who think that women should be nicer, and stop dating assholes and start dating you because you're employed and a decent human being who hasn't shot up heroin or murdered anyone or whatever the hell the super-loose standards are for being a soi disant "nice guy" who deserves a cookie for a lack of felonious behavior.

But I have a message for you.

Man up, you pathetic, despicably weak, pussilanimous wimps.

Oh, women could be nicer to you? You know there's a great bit of folk wisdom around. If every single one of your relationships ended terribly (not just sadly, or even badly, but terribly) remember there was one common factor in each and everyone one of them: you. Amazingly, there's also one factor that you have the power to change, and it isn't "womenkind", especially not the version that exists solely in your imagination.

The so called "beta" males you mock score fairly frequently when they treat women like human beings. Oh, not as often as they'd like - does anyone? - but they're wiping the floor with *your* pathetic selves.

You think women date assholes? Who the fuck wants to date a woman who wants to date an asshole? I mean, what kind of complete *dolt* would want a woman like that? So either you're misjudging the men they're dating, or you're setting your sights on some crazy person who's nothing but trouble (even if it's not her fault - I've known people with sad dating histories that resembled a proctology clinic, and it wasn't their fault but that didn't mean *I* wanted in on the drama!).

You want to date women? First, man up and accept you'll be rejected, and sometimes it'll hurt and make you feel shitty and vulnerable, but it's the cost of doing business. If you're not ready to risk paying that cost, you're not grown up enough to play (or - and this is a real possibility - you're still too sore after the last one, give it time, no shame in waiting until the trainer gives you a pass to get back on the field).

Second, talk to women. Like they were human beings. You know, find out about them. They just might be interesting to know about, and if they aren't - dude, do you really want to be stuck with someone who bores you silly, even if they've got a gorgeous body and the sex knocks you silly? It might be fun while the bedroom stuff's a treat, but that doesn't last. (I'm not saying that the sex has to get bad or boring - just that sooner or later, you're spending an evening with nothing to do and you just ain't in the mood, and here's where you want someone who's interesting to be with.)

Third, watch something like the Tao of Steve - not a bad rulebook. Stop thinking about how much you want to get laid, be your awesomest self, and wait for them to show they're interested in you. Don't expect it to work like in the movies - in the movies, guys who deserve to get laid get laid, but, I hate to break this to you - movies are works of *FICTION*. Lots of guys who deserve to get laid go to bed lonely. And lots of women who deserve to get laid go to bed lonely too - goal is to match 'em up a bit better, but with six, seven, billion people to work with, it's *complicated* so it'll take time.

(I suppose that paragraph could be a bit heterosexist, but I said who my message was directed at, so I'm not worrying about it.)

The whining, the pissing, the moaning - big turnoffs. And maybe you can hide it from the women you're trying to score with, but you can't hide it on your psyche, it shows, and sooner or later, it'll be spotted. So maybe it's time to man up and cast off the behavior of spoiled children, and seek out actual adult relationships?

[User Picture]From: bkwrrm_tx
2014-05-28 08:26 am (UTC)
I haven't dated (or should I say, had sex) in going on 4 years. I don't see that changing at any point in the future, either. That's on me and I'm not blaming all the hot guys I see because they're not flocking to me and banging on my door (or on me).

Your post? Good job.
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[User Picture]From: wolfette
2014-05-28 08:06 pm (UTC)
yanno, I always thought that part of the criteria for being an "alpha male" was that females would be attracted to you - and if females are NOT attracted to you, sorry bub, you AIN'T "alpha" anything.

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